Individual Therapy for Family Conflict in Claremont and online across California

Heal from parental estrangement and disownment.

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Your parents refuse to support you and you don’t know how to handle it.

You’ve decided to start living the life you want…

You’re dating someone outside your culture or family’s religion.
You’re ready to make the next step like move in, get married, or have children.
You’ve been honest with your parents about how you live your life, and now they’ve stopped talking to you, answering your calls, and responding to texts.

Your parents told you that they won’t support your lifestyle…

And will only welcome you back into their lives if you make changes that meet their expectations. They’ve tried to convince you that what you’re doing is wrong. They blame and criticize you when they learn how you are living which causes you a great deal of shame, guilt, anger, and sadness.

Your emotions are all over the place.

You’re hurting so bad you don’t know how to handle it. You spend many days crying over holidays and milestones you won’t have together,, and them never knowing the person you’ve become.

Many times you feel hopeless that they will come back into your life.

This is all affecting your relationship with the partner that you love.

There’s tension between you two, and you worry that you may have to choose between your significant other or your parents.

You feel stuck…

You want to live your life authentically because it’s important to you and you know that it’ll make you happy, but… you want to have your parents back in your life. All you want if for them to listen, understand, validate and accept you. Instead you feel…

Unloved, and it’s breaking your heart.
Abandoned.
That you have to change who you are in order to be loved and accepted by your family.

The thought of confronting your parents again in order to try to reconcile now terrifies you.

You desperately want to…

Learn how to manage your feelings, and feel confident in your choices. Figure out whether you should keep fighting for your family’s approval or if you should learn to accept that they may never change their minds and this is how your life is.

Life looks like…

It’s hard to get out of bed, socialize with your friends and other family, and to feel motivated and focused at school or work. You just want to blow everything off. You really don’t care about much anymore.

You’ve stopped engaging in things you used to enjoy. It’s hard for you to feel happiness and have fun with yourself or other people. It just doesn’t seem worth it.

You’ve talked to other family members about your issues which sometimes leads to arguments and more pain.

You are pulling away and picking fights with your partner. You know you’re acting different- you’re more irritable, and angry with them. You resent them for losing your family, and question whether you made the right choice.

Muslim American women have additional stress to navigate the cultural dynamics, family expectations, and values.

Knowing that if they make a decision their family or community does not approve of, it could result in anything from tension in their close relationships all the way to being disowned, or even at risk for physical violence.

As a woman with a Middle Eastern parent, I’m sensitive to the cultural dynamics that Muslim American women face as they navigate complex family relationships, values, or expectations.

Helping you heal from parental estrangement.

Take a moment and imagine a life where you can:

Feel safe and confident in the status of your relationships.
Nurture the relationships that serve you and have the tools to grieve the loss of those that have ended.
Create and lean on your support system.
No longer feel guilty and confused about your decisions.
Move from being stuck to enjoying the present moment and looking forward to your future.
Have a clear understanding of your boundaries and be able to tolerate other people’s boundaries.
Be your authentic self without fear, guilt or shame. Feel free. Feel peace.

This is what therapy can do for you.

How individual therapy for Family Conflict works

With therapy, you’ll learn how to identify what happens to your mind and body when you are experiencing distressing feelings. You’ll start to recognize patterns in your thinking and behaviors. Also, you’ll gain awareness on not only what triggers you, but why.
You’ll learn skills that are not only healthier, but also more effective in managing your feelings. As much as many of us wish to rid our distress all together, that’s not possible. So you will gain the tools and confidence to tolerate and manage your emotions
You'll be able to live the life that you want with confidence and peace.
You’ll learn how to paradoxically accept yourself and validate your feelings in order to cultivate change. Self-criticism or doubt will no longer dominate your thoughts and you will learn a healthier way of approaching yourself-especially the parts that you don’t like about yourself-with kindness, understanding and compassion.
You'll find acceptance in how you want to live your life.
You’ll cultivate compassion for yourself by gaining an understanding of how your possibly painful past experiences impacted you. With identifying deep wounds, you will learn how to heal those parts of you that constantly have your nervous system in survival mode.
You will stop measuring your self worth from what your parents think of you.

Somatic Therapy

This approach focuses on regulating the nervous system through the body without feeling overwhelmed. You will learn how to SAFELY connect with and nurture your body when experiencing intense emotions related to traumatic experiences and triggers. Through these skills, you will build resilience- not only to survive, but to thrive!

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

Dialectical Behavior Therapy uses opposite ideas-acceptance of who you are, and your desire to change-in order to ultimately lead to change. You will learn how to tolerate your distress, and manage difficult situations with the use of life skills. DBT helps you gain empowerment and control of your emotions.

Mindfulness-Based Therapy

Mindfulness is being present, on purpose, and without judgment. With mindfulness-based interventions, you will learn to gain awareness of your feelings, bodily sensations, thought patterns, behaviors, environment, and relationships. Mindfulness helps you tolerate unpleasant emotions, cultivate self-acceptance, and enhance connection with yourself and others.

Individual Therapy For Family Conflict Can Help You:

Heal from family’s lack of support.
Feel confident in yourself and your choices.
Feel empowered to manage family conflict.
Cultivate a sense of safety and calm in your mind and body.
Reconnect with yourself and others.
Meet your own wants and needs without shame or guilt.
Grieve without feeling overwhelmed by your pain.

The most loving thing you can do is invest in yourself.

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The most loving thing you can do is invest in yourself. 〰️

You don’t have to feel stuck anymore.

Find freedom from feeling unaccepted, unloved, and abandoned.