Individual Therapy for Family Conflict in Rancho Cucamonga

Heal from parental estrangement and disownment.

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Your parents refuse to support you and you don’t know how to handle it.

You’ve decided to start living the life you want…

You’re dating someone outside your culture or family’s religion.
You’re ready to make the next step like move in, get married, or have children
You’ve been honest with your parents about how you live your life, and now they’ve stopped talking to you, answering your calls, and responding to texts.

Your parents told you that they won’t support your lifestyle…

And will only welcome you back into their lives if you make changes that meet their expectations.
They’ve tried to convince you that what you’re doing is wrong.
They blame and criticize you when they learn how you are living which causes you a great deal of shame, guilt, anger, and sadness..

Your emotions are all over the place.

You’re hurting so bad you don’t know how to handle it.
You spend many days crying over the loss.

Many times you feel hopeless that they will come back into your life.

You feel stuck…

You want to live your life authentically because it’s important to you and you know that it’ll make you happy, but… you want to have your parents back in your life.

You want them to listen, understand, validate, and accept you, but instead you feel…

Unloved by them, and it’s breaking your heart.
Abandoned by them.
That you have to change who you are in order to be loved and accepted by them.

The thought of confronting your parents again in order to try reconcile now terrifies you.

You desperately want to…

Learn how to manage your feelings, and feel confident in your choices.

Figure out whether you should keep fighting for your family’s approval or if you should learn to accept that they may never change their minds and this is how your life is.

Muslim American women have additional stress to navigate the cultural dynamics, family expectations, and values.

Knowing if they make a decision that their family or community does not approve of, it could result in anything from tension in their close relationships all the way to being disowned, or even at risk for physical violence.

As a woman with a Middle Eastern parent, I’m sensitive to the cultural dynamics that Muslim American women face as they navigate complex family relationships, values, or expectations.

Life looks like…

It’s hard to get out of bed, socialize with your friends and other family, and to feel motivated and focused at school/work. You just want to blow everything off. You really don’t care about much anymore.

You’ve stopped engaging in things you used to enjoy. It’s hard for you to feel happiness and have fun with yourself or other people. It just doesn’t seem worth it.

You’ve talked to other family members about your issues which sometimes leads to arguments and more pain.

You are pulling away and picking fights with your partner. You know you’re acting different- you’re more irritable, and angry with him. You resent him for losing your family, and question whether you made the right choice.

Helping you heal from parental estrangement.

Take a moment and imagine this for your life. Where you can:

Feel safe and confident in the status of your relationships.
Nurture the relationships that serve you and have the tools to grieve the loss of those that have ended
Create and lean on your support system.
No longer feel guilty and confused about your decisions.
Move from being stuck to enjoying the present moment.
Look forward to your future.
Have a clear understanding of your boundaries and be able to tolerate other people’s boundaries.
Feel empowered to deal with your pain.
Cultivate skills to take care of yourself.
Be your authentic self without fear, guilt or shame. Feel free. Feel peace.

This is what therapy can do for you.

How individual therapy for Family Conflict works

With therapy, you’ll learn how to identify what happens to your mind and body when you are experiencing distressing feelings. You’ll start to recognize patterns in your thinking and behaviors. Also, you’ll gain awareness on not only what triggers you, but why.
You’ll learn skills that are not only healthier, but also more effective in managing your feelings. As much as many of us wish to rid our distress all together, that’s not possible. So you will gain the tools and confidence to tolerate and manage your emotions
You’ll no longer be trying to run away or avoid your thoughts and feelings, but you will learn to deal with and embrace it.
You’ll learn how to paradoxically accept yourself and validate your feelings in order to cultivate change. Self-criticism/doubt will no longer dominate your thoughts and you will learn a healthier way of approaching yourself-especially the parts that you don’t like about yourself-with kindness, understanding and compassion.
You’ll cultivate compassion for yourself by gaining an understanding of how your past (possibly painful) experiences impacted you. With identifying deep wounds, you will learn how to heal those parts of you that constantly have your nervous system in survival mode.
You will stop overly depending on others and find peace by nourishing your own wants and needs with love and compassion.

Mindfulness-Based Therapy

Mindfulness is being present, on purpose, and without judgment. With mindfulness-based interventions, you will learn to gain awareness of your feelings, bodily sensations, thought patterns, behaviors, environment, and relationships. Mindfulness helps you tolerate unpleasant emotions, cultivate self-acceptance, and enhance connection with yourself and others.

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

Dialectical Behavior Therapy uses opposite ideas-acceptance of who you are, and your desire to change-in order to ultimately lead to change. You will learn how to tolerate your distress, and manage difficult situations with the use of life skills. You will gain empowerment and control of your emotions.

Individual Therapy For Family Conflict Can Help You:

Heal from family’s lack of support.
Feel confident in yourself and your choices.
Feel empowered to manage family conflict.
Cultivate a sense of safety and calm in your mind and body.
Understand, validate and accept yourself.
Reconnect with yourself and others.
Set healthy boundaries with yourself and others.
Meet your own wants and needs without shame or guilt.
Grieve without feeling overwhelmed by your pain.
Come to a place of accepting the relationship you have with your parents.
Forgive yourself and others.
Be at peace.

The most loving thing you can do is invest in yourself.

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The most loving thing you can do is invest in yourself. 〰️

You don’t have to feel stuck anymore.

Find freedom from feeling unaccepted, unloved, and abandoned.